Posts Tagged ‘be content’

This is neither an original thought nor a magic spell – but I think it might be a good way to go to minimise the kind of suffering we are liable to inflict on ourselves, so I’m writing a reminder to myself.

My seven keys to happiness:

  • Accept others as they are.
  • Accept yourself as you are.
  • Accept what other people give you graciously and don’t require or expect them to give you more than they are able or willing to give.
  • Accept you’re unlikely to change any other person, their behaviour or their priorities.
  • Adjust your exposure to other people individually depending on how much of them and their behaviour you can deal with.
  • Don’t take things personally – you are not the centre of other people’s universes and their behaviour may not have anything to do with you.
  • Don’t attach too much importance to anything – everything will pass.

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Sometimes you get your most useful thoughts when you can’t write them down, which is annoying because they never seem to read so well when you try to recapture them later on. No harm in trying, though …

One useful thought was the application of a variation of the 80/20 rule to relationships. The idea is that if a relationship works to the tune of 80% and the person seems about 80% right for you, be content. It is not worth putting effort into increasing the 80%. If, however, the missing 20% seems so important a loss that it threatens to destroy the benefits of the 80%, then it is worth reviewing the whole.

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